Preventing FOMO: The Fear Of Missing Out

Today, I want to talk about FOMO, it stands for the Fear Of Missing Out. It basically means that you constantly have the urge to be at all popular events or friend hangouts, that when you skipped something, you might have missed something great. It may sound like a lame term, like the next YOLO or something, but it actually has some meaning to it. I personally don’t have this fear, but I do feel like it’s easy to get caught up in it. In today’s world there are so many temptations for people to do, to visit and to see. Facebook is full of pictures of people travelling the world and festival events are popping up like mushrooms! It’s often difficult to deal with the pressure of attending social gatherings, especially when each gathering is a lot of fun! Continue reading

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Getting to know myself: I am a visual thinker

Over the past few years, I’ve enjoyed it a lot to dig a bit deeper into psychology and understanding how I and others around me function. A few months ago, I posted about a book I read, which was really helpful for me. Also, as you might have noticed. I’m quite observational, assessing how people communicate with each other, how behave in different situations (as an ambivert), and how I make decisions. This post, is quite related to my first post of how to deal with large amounts of information, where I indicated that everyone has different learning styles. I already thought I had quite a visual way of learning, but now I found an article on that being a ‘visual thinker’ is actually a thing. As opposed to many people being verbal thinkers. Continue reading

The Paradox of Good Conversations: Showing Interest vs. Being Interesting

Hi there! Today I’d like to talk about what it means to have good conversations: with strangers, with friends or family or even with dates. As I described in one of my first blogs, I see myself as a so-called “Ambivert”. I’m not extraverted, but not introverted either: it largely depends on the situation. Lately, I’ve been thinking about what this means for conversing with people, getting to know them and letting them to get to know me. In my previous blog, I mentioned that it’s sometimes hard for me to be really out there, to try and have good talks with people. When I’m around people that don’t really know me well yet, I’m constantly concerned about how they perceive my silence (when I don’t talk) and social skills (when I do talk). I know I shouldn’t focus on it so much, as people don’t focus on ME that much! Everyone is paying more attention to themselves than that they are to you, so I shouldn’t be so worried. It’s not that I’m that insecure, or want everyone to like me, but in general, I feel like I’m now over-compensating  on showing interest, which makes me less interesting for other people. You might think now whaaaat that’s silly, of course that’s not true! And probably it isn’t, but it’s something I’ve just thought about quite a bit over the last few months. This is the paradox I’m referring to: showing interest and being interesting don’t go so well together quite often! I’ll illustrate some situations to explain it  all better :) Continue reading

What family means to me

Last weekend I had a family weekend in the area of Zeewolde. It’s a yearly event with all the brothers of my grandpa and their families, so you can imagine that was a really large group of people! Every time, we come together in the first weekend of June on a camping site and spend time together playing games, sporting, enjoying the sun and most importantly: BBQ time and campfire with songs and guitar in the evening!

This year, I decided to go by bicycle my first ‘long’ drive of about 50 kilometers! It went pretty well, the weather was amazing and I cycled together with my dad for the last bit of the ride. I had a backpack on with some clothing and shoes, so that added a small difficulty factor to the ride ;)  Follow me on Strava to see where I’m going!:) Continue reading

Times are tough, but we are tougher

So, this monday I was supposed to fly to Malaga (Spain) for a holiday with my friend. We booked a Ryanair flight from Eindhoven and a lovely place to stay at a Airbnb place. I was looking forward to this trip for weeks: finally a break from daily working life and some relaxation in the sun. However, when trying to check-in the evening before departure, we got a notification that there was some trouble with our flight. Continue reading